1.魔獸不是罪,罪在時間有沒有調配好...
                                                                               
千萬不要為了戀愛,放棄自己最容易放鬆的樂子....切記.....
                                                                               
因為,你只會放棄了最有效的放鬆方式,然後再去找一個次等的放鬆方式而已...
                                                                               
這,又是何必呢??
                                                                               
誰說活了大半輩子玩電動叫沒出習?看電視和打電動只是半斤八兩而已..
                                                                               
生活需要放鬆,用最有效的辦法讓自己放鬆,不需要人云亦云...
(ps.在下現在還在打魔獸世界的朋友,全都有女朋友了,有的還是交往三四年以上)
                                                                               
2.才藝不是絕對...
                                                                               
很多人,什麼都不會,也把的到正妹..
                                                                               
很多人,會一堆東西,結果一個女生也約不出來...
                                                                               
才藝真的不是絕對,尤其是真的戀愛之後,它們也只有少數時候陪襯用的點心而已..
                                                                               
才藝嚴格講起來,是屬於個人的東西,只是它們有一點點附帶能表現自己的效能而已..
                                                                               
反而有的女生會討厭自己男朋友,把太多的時間精神,花在他的才藝上,而不是花在她身上.
                                                                               
真的喜歡的東西,再花時間去學習,去專研..
                                                                               
為了把妹去學才藝,路會不會走的太曲折了一點...
                                                                               
and..另外,學東西,沒有那一股熱忱,也學不到什麼東西,只是在浪費時間而已..
                                                                               
3.把妹千萬不要亂看書,亂學技巧...
                                                                               
技巧把的到幼齒妹,技巧把的到單純妹..
                                                                               
但是技巧把不到好女人...
                                                                               
技巧只會讓人迷失自己真正的感受,掩藏自己真正的情感而已...
                                                                               
把妹不難,可是要讓一個女人深愛上自己,確是很難...
                                                                               
因為深愛,是非理智的,技巧,是理智的,它們有相斥性...
                                                                               
交往中,越多的技巧,就越容易讓兩個人內心深處的旋,撥出不同的聲音...
                                                                               
只有笨拙又吞吞吐吐說出來的真心話,才有辦法真正深入對方的內心..
                                                                               
因為她可以肯定,你說的一切,不只是真的,並且,你用了很大的勇氣把它說出來...
                                                                               
隨口說的"我愛妳一生一世","我這一生,只愛妳一個"這種話,聽過笑過3分鐘後就忘了..
                                                                               
她生日,你送她99朵玫瑰,她可能快樂10分鐘...
                                                                               
她傷心時,你靜靜的伴著她坐在馬路邊,什麼話也沒有講,確可能讓她一輩子難忘..
                                                                               
只有想稿一夜情,或是把戀愛當遊戲的人,才有必要去研究技巧...
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
其實覺得,宅男把不到妹的原因,不是他們不懂什麼...
                                                                               
而是,他們稿錯了什麼...
                                                                               
道聽途說太多,看電視電影小說太多,想太多....
                                                                               
愛情本來就是人類很自然產生的感覺....
                                                                               
技巧?大道理?佈局?計劃??......
                                                                               
那些都只是騙人的技巧而已...
                                                                               
就算對方一時單純,被騙到了,能維持多久??....
                                                                               
更何況比較有身價的女生,從國中被追到大學畢業,什麼話沒聽過,什麼招式沒受過...
                                                                               
她比所有的男生還懂得怎樣騙女生....
                                                                               
而你只花幾年,甚至幾個月去研讀點皮毛的技巧而已,又何苦去她面前獻醜...
                                                                               
so....怎樣追到女朋友對宅男而言...第一件事就是...
                                                                               
你要先攪懂,自己到底在戀愛這個世界中,弄錯了什麼....
                                                                               
你要自己想辦法去把這些錯誤找出來,這個別人也幫不了你...
                                                                               
因為每個人錯的地方不一樣..
                                                                               
建議辦法就是,多和女生相處,就算只是online game上面的女生也會有效果...
                                                                               
多去了解女生在想什麼,也多去思考自己在和女生相處時的定位和態度...
                                                                               
第二件事就是,想辦法去碰觸有女生的環境...
                                                                               
像社團,還是聯誼,不然,沒有獵物,打獵技巧再好,也只能空手而回呀..
                                                                               
第三件事情就是,外貌稍微顧一下...
                                                                               
平凡就好,乾淨簡單明瞭,稿太多個人風格,只會把自己把妹的族群給限制住而已...
                                                                               
並不是每個女生都喜歡運動裝,也並不是每個女生都喜歡男生穿西裝...
                                                                               
越平凡,彈性反而越大.....
                                                                               
然後最後一件事情就是...
                                                                               
做你自己...
                                                                               
千萬不要為了戀愛,把原本的自己給走失了...
                                                                               
有志氣一點,就算你是宅男,你也是男人...
                                                                               
是男人,就會有女生愛....
                                                                               
放棄男人的自尊,然後贏合女生表面上的喜好,趨炎附勢的男人..
                                                                               
就算戀愛了,也維持不了多久,因為,你是在過別人的戀愛,不是你自己的戀愛...
                                                                               
對方愛的,也不是你,而是你裝出來的那個影子....
                                                                               
甚至,你根本就沒有戀愛,你只是表面上找了個女朋友,可是內心,一點波動也沒有...
                                                                               
不覺得,這樣很可悲嗎??
                                                                               
騙了別人,也騙了自己...
                                                                               
到最後,什麼也沒有得到...
                                                                               
戀愛最有價值的東西,永遠不是帶個驚豔的馬子到路上閃別人..
                                                                               
或是把個大奶妹躺在床上抽插...
                                                                               
而是內心的那股震動,以及彼此生命價值的認定....
                                                                               
那會讓你深刻的感受到"你是活著的"
                                                                               
更會讓你,做什麼事情,都會充滿感覺和感動....
                                                                                
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